I loved this post by Janet Reid. I've been there so often. In her post she mentions a sort of query she received asking for advice. She responded and pointed them towards Query Shark. He wrote back, a little snarkily, and said he didn't want query help, he wanted advice on how to find an agent. He missed it. She sent the answer to him but because he was looking for something different he didn't see it.
I have done this so many times. Asked for advice or a solution only to spurn it all because I wanted a different answer or it didn't come in the form I was looking for. Then, after a long and bruising road trying to do it on my own, found that it had been the solution I was looking for all along. It was a great reminder to me to keep my eyes, ears, and mind open, to look at what's in front of me and see what I can find.