Like many writers I’m a fairly reserved person. When I was younger I was extremely shy. I couldn’t call the electric company without getting sick to my stomach. The Engineer has spent a lot of time trying to help me come out of my shell. He’s been very patient and I am now able to carry on conversations without vomiting or passing out. Really, I can. Even a few years ago when I joined my writers’ website I was a mess. For the first few months every time I posted I would email my mom and ask her to look at the comment and tell me if I was a dork or if I should delete it. I’m blogging, when once this would have been impossible. To achieve this amount of social freedom my husband has often pushed me out of my comfort zone.
The other day he was trying to get me to do something and he brought up the old “you need to be more social” argument.
“I’m social.” I argued. “I blog or am on my writers website every day.”
Then he said something truly outrageous. “The internet doesn’t count as social.”
So now I’m wondering, do you believe interactions on the internet are social? I do. They’re different than face to face interactions but they are still interactions with other people. There are different considerations to take into account, but the skills I’ve learned by interacting with people on the internet have only helped my face to face encounters, and phone calls, because those were particularly terrifying.
It would be easy to let the internet become the only way of communicating and I don’t believe that’s a good thing. But I do believe the internet is a form of socialization. What do you think? How do you define socializing?