By now everyone has probably heard of the author who didn't like the review given her book at BigAl's Books and Pals. If not go over and check it out. It's a classic example of how not to react. The author blames the reviewer, demands the review be taken down, and eventually resorts to name calling and swearing.
I've never had a piece published outside of my high school literary magazine, (Hey I had to start somewhere, and it was nationally recognized) but I can imagine the heartbreak at seeing something you love and have slaved over belittled. Though I'm more of the hide in my closet and cry person than the lash out at everyone person.
A few weeks ago an another blog I saw a commenter ream the blogger, calling her naive and condescending, her post misinformed and elitist and telling her she had no business writing. Now I don't know what the blogger did in private, cry, yell, rant, we didn't see it. The blogger's response was along the lines of: thanks for reminding me things don't always come across as I mean them too. I'll try to be more precise next time and remember not everyone sees things the way I do. What easily could have denigrated into name calling and crudity was diffused by the blogger's professionalism.
Most of the time writing is a solitary pursuit. We interact with other writers on twitter, blogs, websites and crit groups but much of that is on the computer. It's easy to forget there is another person on the other end of the connection. That person deserves respect and politeness. Not just because we're professionals and this is our job, though that is true, but because we're all human and it's the right thing to do.
What do you think about bad reviews, professionalism, and author/reviewer relationships?