Kiersten White once said on he blog "Don't let your expectations poison a perfectly good reality."
It's easy to picture the end goal in your mind. We imagine other people who have reached that goal standing around wallowing in their success and we wonder why we aren't there with them. Whether your goal is being published, weight loss, education, career, or what have you it's easy to make ourselves miserable dwelling on each rejection and obstacle.
But when we do this we miss out on all the great learning experiences. When you focus solely on blogging to impress an agent with your platform you miss out on all the friends you could make and the things you could learn. If you push yourself on your story, closing your mind to other things you might miss some great inspiration for your next story, or the lives of your family.
The thing with writing is that there really is no destination. The moment you arrive at a spot and have nowhere else to go you know your writing career is over. So why do we spend so much time resisting the journey, and looking for shortcuts?
When we reach our goal are we disappointed because there isn't as much money, fans, recognition involved as there was in our daydreams? So what. You're still there. Don't let that expectation that was based on inaccurate information ruin the happiness you could have.
Yes, it's good to know where you want to go and to have a plan on how to get there. But it's also important to enjoy the journey. Your mission, should you choose to accept it, is to think of a few positive things from being where you are in your journey.
Since I don't have deadlines I can take the time I need to get it right. I also have the flexibility I need for my small children.
I still have time for blogging. Ever notice that when someone gets a contract they all of a sudden announce a blogging break so they can finish edits by deadlines?
I can explore any genre, theme or story I want since I don't have to worry about platform or creating a following.
I know there are more but my kids are up so I'm going to exercise my flexibility and stop now.