Monday, May 19, 2014

Absent



When a person lives with something for a long time, an addiction, an illness, a child, a spouse, it becomes the new normal. It’s easy to forget what it was like to live without it. When that thing is taken away we are dropped in a whole new world. Maybe a good world, maybe a bad one.  For a time we may be lost, confused and alone, wondering how in the world we can adjust. How we can get back to normal.

Fortunately, or maybe unfortunately, humans are adaptable. The events in our lives mold us, refine us.  Yet no matter how horrible, or how good, we move on, we find a way to change, grow, and deal with those events. We may struggle while doing this, but the possibility to adapt is there, even while wondering what to do, or how to live with that absence.  

Gradually we remember how to be the us we once were.  The us that lived without it. The person a part of us still is. Only now we’re tempered with the wisdom that life has brought us.  


Lest any of you believe I have lost a loved one that is not the case. For me the absence is a good one.  It won’t be gone forever. It will return sooner than I wish. But for now, I am rejoicing in the me I once was, in the freedom I currently have.

33 comments:

  1. Change can be difficult. I'm glad that whatever it is, you are finding the positive in it. Be blessed.

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  2. Not to be insensitive here, but are we talking about the internet?

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    1. Lol, I wasn't talking about the internet, or the non-functioning dishwasher. And you'll have to try a lot harder than that to be insensitive or offensive. I'm a pretty tough nut. :)

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  3. I certainly agree that we are shaped by the events in our life. The human spirit is thankfully adaptable. Thanks for a thoughtful post today.

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  4. {{{hugs}}} I'm thinking about you. Take care.

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  5. Oh Sara… you are SO STRONG… I'm sorry whatever it is will come back… but you truly are a light and this was SUCH a beautiful post!!!

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  6. Sara, I hope the change you're going through will bring you strength and blessings. Hope to keep in touch with you, dear friend. All the best!

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  7. You've channelled the absence in a positive way... good way of handling the situation.

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    1. Thanks, times like these it's good to remember your blessings.

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  8. Gosh, this makes me curious ...

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    1. Sorry. It's all good. It's just nice not to be dominated by outside influences. You'd think after blogging as long as I have I would have learned not to post my random ruminations......

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    2. I appreciate your random ruminations. Tides us over until we have one of your novels in our hot, little hands.

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    3. I'm afraid to say that, unless you want to beta read, that will be a little while. I do hope to be querying by the end of summer though.

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    4. Yay for querying! I hope all is well. Hugs!

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    5. Hey, Sara, It's the book you read last summer. It's changed a bit since then. I'm hopeful it will find an agent, though.

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  9. So true. You do adjust to the new norm. Glad yours is a happy one.

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  10. That is so very true. Girl, you're deep!
    Glad you're getting a break. Enjoy it while it lasts. :)

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  11. Hi, Sara,

    You are so right! I am one of those insane people who like change. Thankfully in your case it is one that is appreciated. A quiet time for reflection....

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  12. Glad you're finding the good in your change :)

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    1. Thanks, this one is pretty easy to see the good in.

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  13. Enjoy what you have now. Revel in it even.
    Hugs

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  14. Adaption is never easy and the time it takes depends on you. Life is about adaptations and what you do with it. With each adaption comes changes, joys, sorrows, and a rebirth. Embrace it and make it your own.

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    1. You are one of the best example of enduring trials and making the most of changes you have no control over. Stay strong, Jo.

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  15. We do adapt to whatever the change. I'm glad your change is a good one but sorry it will come back...

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  16. I'm glad you shared this, Sara. I hope you find peace and happiness in this profound change.

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  17. Shooting in the dark but sounds like the end of a relationship. Possibly a boy. And if so kudos because I want to be next with ya!! Ur smart, cute and a catch!!

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  18. Oooh, my imagination is running wild here... I'm going through some personal changes myself and can absolutely relate. What introspective creatures we writers are. :)

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  19. Transitions are hard work. I'm thinking of you!

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  20. We may be experiencing different transitions, but I'm right there with you in the emotions you expressed-- thanks for sharing.

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  21. If it's a good thing, then I don't feel bad saying that sometimes change is beneficial for learning something new or seeing life in a new way. It certainly is interesting to be "woken up" now and then!

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  22. I've had good and bad times with absences. It's based on the situation and my perspective, I know. I'm glad this is in a positive light.

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  23. Aloha Sara:)

    Thanks for the *kind* words and I hope the good times/feelings are still rolling your way:)

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